Surprising title, right? Well, the reality is this new era is really about being selfish! I’m not talking about “greed is good” selfish or acting like an obnoxious oaf. I’m talking about what being selfish really means — you take care of yourself first and then help others.

Religions, society, the media, family and your friends are always promoting being unselfish. In theory that sounds good, but in practice it fails. This is because you are taught to suppress yourself in order to help others, and that’s not a good thing. Your flow, your true life’s purpose, is 100% about success. So if you are repressing that success in order to “help” others you are creating blockages, sometimes severe. For example, if you gave every dollar of your paycheck to charity every week how would you live?

If you’ve ever been on an airplane you’ll know what I’m talking about. During the safety demonstration prior to takeoff they talk about oxygen masks (those orange things that fall from the ceiling). Regardless of the airline, they always say, “if you are travelling with a small child put your mask on first and then help the child.” This is being selfish. And remember the old adage from the Bible: “Give a man a fish and he eats for a day. Teach a man to fish and he eats for a lifetime.” This is being selfish.

The good news is when you are in your flow you can easily “discriminate” between what is appropriate selfishness and what is not. And that does not involve outside voices telling you the difference.